Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-31 New International Version
Remember the old pirate movies where they look through a spyglass. Is that not the way many people look at conflicts? Through one lens and that lens is their own opinion. They refuse to listen to anybody else. They speak, you listen. You speak, they don’t listen. It is called selective hearing and is the major problem in conflicts whether it is between parents and children (it is just as important for parents to listen to children as it is for children to listen to parents by the way), husbands and wives, or neighbors.
Instead it is important to look though binoculars to see the big picture. We need to sit down with pen and paper and listen to what the other person has to say and write it down. While person A is speaking person B listens without interrupting and is writing down what is said. This is then repeated with person B speaking and person A listening.
Next try to look at how and why the other person feels the way they do.
If you cannot solve the problem between yourselves it is important to get someone who does not take sides and you both trust to mediate between you. You both agree to the mediator’s decision and act upon it. It is one thing to agree to it, it is just as important to act on it.
I have met many people that it was like talking to a wall. They pretended not to hear what I was saying because they didn’t care.
What I have learned is to inform them when they are just as willing to listen as they are to talk, we can continue. Then walk away. I do not give in to them no matter how much they pout like little babies, threaten and whine. Many times that means distancing myself from them. It has cost me many friendships but I am better off without them because they were very self centered and greedy.
Now of course it is different if you are married or it is parents and children living in the same place.
When I was a teacher and a student was naughty I did not scream and yell at them. I would sit them down and talk with them. They knew what they did was wrong. Just be patient with them. Once they admit what they did was wrong then we talk about how they can make it right. After that is settled we work on them making it right. If they were naughty to another student they would apologize to them in class. When they would have a difficult time doing this, teacher was right there softly encouraging them, informing them it was the right thing to do and I know you can do it. Then I would encourage the hurt child to forgive. Teacher would then give them big huggies and inform them he is proud of them. They love and respect teachers like that. I will tell you, the children in my classes were very well behaved. That is why I always got the worst classes. But, in two months there was a complete change.
So too is it necessary for us to do this with each other.
Prayer: Please Jehovah Jireh (The Lord our provider) please provide me to have both eyes open to how to heal any broken relationship in my life. I ask in the name of He who has taught me to have eyes to see Jesus Christ. Amen.
May the sweet sunshine of Jesus’ precious love bless you today and every day.
Someone asked me the other day if I had my life to live over would I change anything.
My answer was no, but then I thought about it and changed my mind.
If I had my life to live over again I would have waxed less and listened more.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy and complaining about the shadow over my feet, I’d have cherished every minute of it and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was to be my only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.
I would have eaten popcorn in the “good” living room and worried less about the dirt when you lit the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.
I would have burnt the pink candle that was sculptured like a rose before it melted while being stored.
I would have sat cross-legged on the lawn with my children and never worried about grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television … and more while watching real life.
I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband which I took for granted.
I would have eaten less cottage cheese and more ice cream.
I would have gone to bed when I was sick, instead of pretending the Earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for a day.
I would never have bought ANYTHING just because it was practical/wouldn’t show soil/ guaranteed to last a lifetime.
When my child kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, “Later. Now, go get washed up for dinner.”
There would have been more I love yous … more I’m sorrys … more I’m listenings … but mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute of it … look at it and really see it … try it on … live it … exhaust it … and never give that minute back until there was nothing left of it.”
― Erma Bombeck, Eat Less Cottage Cheese and More Ice Cream: Thoughts on Life from Erma Bombeck
For God speaks again and again, though people do not recognize it. He speaks in dreams, in visions of the night, when deep sleep falls on people as they lie in their beds. He whispers in their ears and terrifies them with warnings. He makes them turn from doing wrong; he keeps them from pride. Job 33:14–17 The Holy Bible, The New Living Testament
When ever I have vivid dreams they always come true with in three days.
Why not keep you mobile phone near your bed and record your dream as soon as you wake up, most times you will forget it when you go back to sleep and wake up later. Then, as you read devotionals like Our Daily Bread or listen to sermons from preachers like Allister Begg or Max Lucado.
The Holy Spirit may reveal their meaning to you.
I say maybe because most of the time He doesn’t to me.
There has been so many times The Holy Spirit has softly spoken and warned me not to take a contract or go to a certain area. Every time a disaster was averted.
He did it with the scamdemic and boy am I ever grateful He did.
He has convicted me so many times of when I have done or said something wrong. Then He provided the opportunity for me to reconcile those that were wronged.
Do you notice that there is no distinction between children of Jehovah and the unsaved?
Jehovah speaks to us all. Only the arrogant refuse to listen and always pay the price for it. Joseph- Anthony a son of Jehovah
Prayer: Thank you Jehovah KalEl (voice of God Isaiah 30:21 ) for sending The Holy Spirit to speak with all of us. The wise listen and avoid disaster in their lives. The arrogant fools refuse to listen and are punished for their arrogance. I thank you in the name of He who speaks to me so much in The Holy Word, The Bible, Jesus Christ. Amen
Seleh- stop and think about it.
indeovi vas ( may you live with Jesus in Latin )
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Prayer is enjoying an open, honest sincere talk with your best friend, most special lover and wisest teacher. Relax in His presence. Listen and obey what He says to you because He only wants what is best for the child He so deeply loves. Joseph- Anthony: Green
The relationship between Christ and the believer “is the nearest, dearest, closest, most intense, and most enduring relationship that can be imagined,” said Spurgeon. We live because Christ lives, and our lives are hid with Christ in God. It is closer than a husband and wife, or children and their parents.
One of the greatest mysteries in the Bible is the believer’s vital relationship to his Lord and Savior.
There are three great mystical unions in the Bible. The union of the three persons of the Godhead, being one God, called the doctrine of the Trinity. The Bible also teaches the union of the two natures of Jesus Christ in one person, and the vital union of the believer in Christ.
There is a close intimate union between the Lord Jesus Christ and the Christian. It is so intimate that it may be spoken of as one. “We are members of His body” (Ephesians 5:30). It is not a physical union, but an attachment of love. We are truly united with Him as truly as the parts of our bodies belong to the head. Charles Hodge said, “This might mean simply that we stand to Him in the same intimate and vital union that a man’s body sustains to the man himself.”
Figuratively, we are members of Christ, and together we form His body. This is the closest imaginable relationship. We are identified with Him. We are made an essential part of Him. He is the head of the body and we are the members of that body. It is the closest imaginable vital union possible. “We are members of His body.”
The apostle Paul has in mind that the believer’s standing is such a relationship with Christ that it is analogous to Eve’s relation to Adam. As Eve derived her life from the body of Adam (Genesis 2:18-25), so we derive our spiritual life from the body of Christ. We are partakers of the life of Christ. Our spiritual life proceeds from and is sustained by Christ. It is the source of our present spiritual life, and of our eternal life in glory with Christ.
“You are therefore, now made by His grace to participate in His moral and spiritual nature, and you will never be satisfied till you awake in His likeness,” wrote C. H. Spurgeon. “But you will awake in His likeness, so that when He sees you and you see Him, then shall be abundantly manifested to you that you are a member of His body.”
Being made a “member of His body” means we have entered into the most intimate relationship possible with Him. We are joined together with Christ in the most intimate communion. Adam could say of Eve, she is of the same bone and flesh, thus she is related to me.
“We are members of His body,” means we are His loving possession. We belong to Christ. “You are not your own, you are bought with a price” (1 Cor. 6:20). He purchased us with His own precious blood. You are now altogether His, and you belong to no other.
“You are one with Him. You were ‘buried in Him in baptism unto death,’ wherein also you have risen with Him. You were crucified with Him upon the cross, you have gone up into heaven with Him, for He has raised us up together, and made us to sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus. And surely you shall be actually in your very person with Him where He is, that you may behold His glory. You are one with Him” (Sermons of C. H. Spurgeon, vol. x, p. 22).
One of the greatest practical applications of this great doctrine of our vital union in Christ is that it secures the eternal safety of every one who is one with Christ. “Because I live you shall live also.” All of you who are in Him have eternal life. The idea of Jesus Christ losing members of His body who are grafted into Him is impossible to conceive. Will He lose His members? “I give unto My sheep eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall any snatch them out of my hand” (John 10:28). There is strong reason to believe in the security of every one who is one with Christ. That is how much God loves you and cares about His relationship with you.
We are now being changed from glory to glory (2 Cor. 3:18) through this vital union with Christ. If we are one in Christ we shall enjoy His divine love. If we are one of His members He may chasten us and correct us when we need it, but He will never sever us from His body. “As My Father has loved Me, even so have I loved you.”
He nourishes us because we are members of His body. We draw our daily sustenance from His presence. He makes us lie down in His green pastures.
Since we are members of His body, He will one day present us to Himself without spot or wrinkle or blemish. We will be perfect even as He is perfect. We will enter into the eternal joy in the Lord. We are joint heirs with Christ; therefore whatever He has we shall share.
Because we are members of His body we shall be with Him where He is, and behold His glory. We shall be with Him always.
SELAH! Pause – reflect- just think of that!
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You have filled my heart with more happiness than they have when there is much grain and wine. Psalms 4: 7 The Holy Bible The New Life Version
I would like to change happiness to joyfulness.
The reason for that is that happiness is dependent upon physical thing while joyfulness is spiritual.
Happiness cannot ever compare to joyfulness. It is like comparing a hot dog to a steak.
I am grateful for the physical blessing Poppa has blessed me with but remember the spiritual ones far longer and when I remember them it still makes my heart dance with joy. Joseph- Anthony a son of Jehovah
Prayer: Thank you Jehovah El Simchath Gili (Psalms 43:4 GOD My Exceeding Joy ) for blessing me with Your Heavenly treasure of joy through out the day, every day. I praise You in the name of He with whom I find the greatest joy in spending time with, Jesus Christ. Amen
Seleh- stop and think about it.
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