But if a widow has children or grandchildren [who are adults], see to it that these first learn to show great respect to their own family [as their religious duty and natural obligation], and to compensate their parents or grandparents [for their upbringing]; for this is acceptable and pleasing in the sight of God. 1 Timothy 5:4 Holy Bible Amplified Version
Speaking from both personal experience and knowledge of others who are caregivers of their elderly parents it is common for one adult child to care for the parent while the other siblings do nothing to help ( the adult grandchildren are just as negligent).
The negligent children and grandchildren only call when they want money but if there is any help required in the care of their elderly parent or grandparent they are too “busy” to help. The negligent family members are constantly getting money from the parent or grandparent while the caregiver is left empty handed. Indeed, many times the elderly parent is abusive to the caregiver. The load is very heavy upon the shoulders of the caregiver or caregivers (if they are married it puts tremendous stress on the relationship) and many times the stress is crushing.
“I know God won’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.” — Mother Teresa
For me, I go into the forest and spend quiet time with my Love. He blesses me with strength, comfort and encouragement while reading the Book of Psalms.
So then, whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of [our great] God. 1 Corinthians 10:31 Holy Bible Amplified Version
This is the important part with the Christian, when we feel like we are being used and abused ( which in most cares we are) just remember that we are serving our Heavenly King Jesus Christ and not man. Our reward will be great in Heaven.
As well the one theme He carries through with me is that when the elderly parent dies Jehovah Jireh (God will supply) will bless us with a comfortable life afterwards.
If I am devoted to the cause of family only, I will soon be exhausted and come to the place where my love will falter; but if I love Jesus Christ personally and passionately, I can serve family though they treat me as a door-mat.
The secret of a disciple’s life is devotion to Jesus Christ, and the characteristic of the life is its unobtrusiveness. It is like a corn of wheat, which falls into the ground and dies, but presently it will spring up and alter the whole landscape.
Prayer: Thank you Jehovah Helech ‘Olam (The Lord our King Forever) for blessing me with Your wise words to continue to be an obedient free will servant unto You and unto my mother in fulfilling my duty unto You and my mother. I extol Thee in the name of Your son who was obedient unto You all the way to the cross Jesus Christ. Amen.
May the gentle assurance of Jesus’ sweet love encompass you today and every day.