Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so stop before a dispute breaks out. Proverbs 17:14 Holy Bible, New Living Translation
Have you ever watched water gush over a dam? Imagine standing under its power. It would be extremely stupid and devastating.
In every relationship there are sore points and unresolved issues. When these sore points are brought up it is opening the flood gates of hurt and pain. Instead of bringing them up whenever you cannot get your own way the most important thing to do is pray for resolution, preferably with a Christian Councillor.
Most times the guilty party refuses to go into counseling, most times it is because of pride. One they do not want to admit they were wrong and two they do not want to take responsibility for their actions and three the injured soul does not want to let go of the hurt, they use it like a crutch and they use it to manipulate.
When the other party begins to go on this stupid wheel of destruction, it does cause deep cuts with the words that are said in the heated battle, just inform them that if they wish to continue the discussion we will do so in a Christian councilors office. If you refuse to do so it is an admission of guilt on your behalf. When you are mature enough and ready for reconciliation let me know and we will go to the Christian councilors office. Other wise this discussion is over. Then just walk away. It works wonders for me.
If you value a relationship, you must be willing to go into counseling. If it is not important enough for you to go into counseling, then this relationship is over. This prevents a lot of unnecessary trouble in our lives. Joseph a son of Jehovah
Prayer: Please Jehovah El-Deah (God of knowledge) bless me with the knowledge to know when to shut up, when to pray for words of healing and reconciliation and when to seek out good Christian councilors when in a dispute. I sincerely request this in the name of He who knew when to speak and the right words to say Jesus Christ. Amen
May your house be filled with joy in the morning and sweet dreams at night. May it be a home where love has come to live. Joseph a son of Jehovah