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Heal My Heart



Not only are they unrepentant.

We need to look at both sides of the coin.

It is their own fault.

I just read an article about how many old people are living very lonely lives and die alone. The comments were very condemning towards their children.

I would like to give the flip side of the coin.

How many parents were abusive to their children? When the children become adults they try to get the parents to apologize. The parents refuse with the old “I don’t remember, that was so long ago, you have to get over it, and or you have to forgive.” Not only are they unrepentant but if the children try to take them in to live with them in their old age alls they do is cause trouble.

How many adults need to go into therapy because of the abuse their parents did to them?

I once read an article that said seventy percent of adults had issues with their parents and the issue was the parents being unrepentant of the abuse they did to them when they were children.

When I was a volunteer in an old folks home I used to see some residents sit there and do nothing but cry all day long because they were lonely. When their children would come to visit them (which was rarely) I would politely scold them and ask them to visit more often. You would see a lot of anger in their eyes as they would always say the same thing “You don’t know what they did to me as a child.” When I would try to befriend the old people they were very demanding and yes abusive (like throwing food at me just because they couldn’t have their own way). Their loneliness was self inflicting.

I know of this in marriages, between siblings and between the good time friends (the ones that use you and abuse you and when they can’t get anymore from you they throw you away like yesterdays garbage). It is so sad to see the innocent suffer.

It is so sad but we need to look at both sides of the coin.

Are you an adult that was abused by your parents but they refuse to apologize for it? Don’t feel guilty because your parents are all alone in an old folks home. It is their own fault.

Are you being abusive with your children and or other people? Are you a troll on websites like this that like to make mean and cruel remarks? Be careful, you will regret it in your old age.

As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it. Job 4:8 New International Version

Prayer: Please Jehovah Ropheka (God our healer) heal the broken relationships in my life and heal my heart from the hurt caused by unrepentant and abusive people. I achingly ask this in the name of the greatest healer Jesus Christ. Amen.

May the sunshine of Jesus’ sweet love bless you today and every day.


Author: ropheka

After faithfully serving the Lord in China for ten years as a teacher I have been called home to care for my aged mother who has numerous disabilities. As well I regularly do volunteer work visiting seniors in a seniors home. I love being in nature. I say the closer we get to nature the more we see Jehovah. We are blessed in this area with many amazing, easy to ride bicycle trails on old railroad lines that takes us all over Southern Ontario.

10 thoughts on “Heal My Heart

  1. Warfare between family members of any kind can be worse than that of friends! Guess that’s because familiarity breeds contempt…

    It’s sad when parents and children are estranged. So much better to forgive but many do not do so.


    • Reconciliation means not only forgiving but the abusers must admit what they did, admit it was wrong, apologize for it and stop doing it. In my family I have done the forgiving but they refuse to do their part. Jesus says to have nothing to do with them under these circumstances. “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector. Matthew 18:15-17 Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. Titus 3:10

      • All of this is true of course. But always remember to be ready and willing to accept them back if they do ask you for forgiveness…”70X7″ is how we are forgiven, so it is how we are to forgive…

      • This they know brother but are living worldly so sadly are uninterested.

  2. I am sorry this has happened to you ❤ It is very painful, I know. Blessings & love to you.

    • Thank you for your kind condolences but the Holy Spirit has healed me of the wounds and taught me how to deal with abusive people. Now it is their problem not mine. The sad thing is that it always comes back on them so they suffer more than I.

  3. This is very true. God commands us to forgive, but He also instructs us not to open ourselves up to hurt and abuse. It’s a two-way street, and when one person in the situation continues to behave in the way they did that caused the problem in the first place, there’s nothing wrong at all with us walking away from that person and praying that they’ll eventually see the error of their ways. I’ve been in similar instances, where I bent over backwards to forgive someone and try to mend a relationship; but in the process of doing so, I realized that, while I had changed my view, the other person wasn’t ready or willing to change their thoughts and behavior. So it was a dead-end scenario. I could walk away from it without feeling guilty since I did forgive them and wished them well.

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